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True Healing | Anchor into and celebrate your BODY!

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Anchor into your body; it’s the vessel that wields the force! photo by Sara James Williams


I have received a lot of messaging from spirit about the deep need for folks to anchor into the vessel that carries our spirits. In a culture that is so mind-centered, much of the work that we do to heal leaves the body behind. For truly sustainable healing to occur, we must release what is held in the body as we focus on healing our spirits and minds. Otherwise, a hidden trigger may cause you to wonder why you are suddenly called back into feeling an old story that you thought you healed from.

Our bodies are so powerful, they are the vehicle for our souls to experience this human life, yet we often fail to celebrate all that they give to us and too often, we dissociate from them. At times, we dissociate from our bodies as a result of physical trauma or because our bodies do not perform to our expectations. Many of us end up with a very different perception of our bodies than what others actually see when they look at us, some even end up with body dysmorphia. Learning to be present and honoring our body is central to overall health and well-being. Our bodies reflect our truth so well, often telling us of emotional issues that are unresolved and need attention. It is important to honor and pay attention to any messages that come from our body; equally important is celebrating these magical vessels! So much joy can be received through our senses. Take time to care for your body and please remember to include it on any healing journey. Spirit encourages us to move forward with attention to the triad – body, mind, and spirit.

Some tips for anchoring into the body and ensuring your body moves forward in alignment with your spiritual and emotional healing journeys:

  • Spend a few minutes each morning, mid-day, and evening doing some breath work. Set intention and visualize white light – or a color you are called to, depending on your needs – as you breathe deeply into your pelvic floor (root).
  • Dedicate bodywork sessions to your healing work by affirming what you are releasing and what you desire to receive as your session begins. Allow yourself to release and receive throughout the session, making note of any messages you receive from spirit.
  • Spend time in nature, as above, dedicate your time in nature to align your body with your healing journey.
  • Visualize earth energy rising from the core of the earth and entering into your body, affirm that you are supported as you visualize your spirit anchoring into your body.
  • Journal! Writing is an excellent way to release emotion held in the body. It is preferable to physically release these writings as they hold the energy. Consider burning or drowning them. If there is a purposeful reason to hold onto the writing (material to inform a book or blog post in service to others), keep the writings in a dedicated journal or file that has been blessed with your intention to transmute the low energy and detach from the pain and to use these as materials for teaching others. Always know that you can call upon your angels and guides to assist with transmuting energy.
  • It can be incredibly powerful to do mirror work or to work with a photographer who helps you to see yourself in the fullness of your beauty.

I am going to close on a personal note. I have had to do a lot of personal healing related to past body trauma – from miscarriage and high-risk pregnancy, to sexual abuse trauma, to chronic pain from car accidents. Because my guides provided me with fantastic guidance on my journey, I have been blessed in my recovery and have overcome both PTSD and chronic pain. To be quite frank, I believed I had released all of my body trauma but when I began dating my partner Matt in 2015, I began having flare ups of startle reflex and anxiety. I knew this meant I still had something to release. Matt is a very attractive man, one of those men that people often describe as “model” handsome. His ex-wife is physically beautiful along those “model” lines. Though I did not realize it at the top of my consciousness, when the old symptoms popped back up, I had to acknowledge that I still held self-judgement and insecurity about my body. This seemed so weird to me because I often celebrate how powerful and amazing this vessel is. It produced babies for goodness sake!

Recently, my guides suggested that I get head shots with my retreat business partner, Rose. They were very specific in their recommendation that we see Sara James Williams of SJW Photography. Sara also happens to be a boudoir photographer, working with women to see themselves “through the lens of unconditional love.” As the universe would have it, my cycle came early that month…starting the morning of my photo shoot. So, I had my photo’s taken not just at a time when I am much heavier than I desire to be (yes for health reasons but also because let’s be real…we all want to be beautiful) but also on the first day of my period. That morning, I rolled my eyes and asked my guides to please help me not to be a cranky bitch. The energy at the photo shoot was so loving, there was no way to not feel the vibration rising to joy. I was smiling as I took a deep breath and realized how clever the universe is. Instead of hating on my period, I embraced the truth of its magic, I celebrated how fantastic the female body is. Apparently, this combination of conditions is exactly what I needed to release the remaining low energy held in my energetic wiring related to my body. I honestly had forgotten what I actually look like. Watching Matt as he looked at the photo’s was pure magic, I was able to see his appreciation for my vessel and I saw my body in a way that I had not in so long. The overall experience helped me to see my vessel again, with love and gratitude. It was incredibly healing. I highly recommend Sara as an instrument of divine healing with her loving lens and the truth that is revealed.

If you, or anyone you know, would benefit from a true shift related to your body, join me and my lovely co-host, Rose, this Fall at our body focused retreat, I Am; Anchored.




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Orlando: Dark night of our collective soul

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Whenever we, as individuals or as a collective, are about to ascend to a higher frequency we first wander around in the abyss – akin to the dark night of the soul. Here, we are gutted… and we often wonder if we can find our way back to the light. The tragedy in Orlando, along with all of the agonizing attacks in our current era, is an example of the abyss. It highlights the need to embrace love energy, to remember that we are all one people, each of us one of the Greater One. We are “I AM”. In the darkness of the abyss, we create awareness of and space for what is to come.

As a mother of (as well as intuitive guide for parents of) children who have come into this world to challenge and shift humanity’s understanding of gender identity and sexual orientation, I know without a doubt that the brightness of the LGBT community will not be dimmed by the still small hearts that continue to perpetuate hate crimes, dissonance, and fear based misbeliefs. As the light becomes stronger and stronger, the dark energies are relentless – like moths to the flame – until the necessary shift occurs. I have zero doubt that the shift will occur. With every breath, I am sure that my children, all of our children, will dance in a higher vibration.

Here on the earth plane, we are collectively experiencing the pain of this horrific tragedy. We are also experiencing private and collective grief as we bear witness to the ugliness and cruelty that still exists in our world – not just within the mind of the shooter but in the hearts of those whose hateful words and actions in response to this sadden and alarm us. It is so important to grieve and to pause in honor  of those lives whose gut-wrenching sacrifice reminds us of the work still left to do to heal our collective human spirit. Know that every loving thought, every prayer, every intentional pause rides an energetic wave and is received by our loved ones who have departed their human vessel to return to pure spirit form.

I do find comfort in knowing that on the spiritual plane there is a welcoming home of these beautiful souls. Gratitude, celebration, healing, so much love. As well, I feel healing happening all around me. So many bright spirits using their powerful voices to usher in a higher love.

In remembrance of our beloveds and of our divine nature.


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Self-love Transforms Relationships

Relationship Discord? Shift your focus from the “other” to yourself!

Many clients come to me with relationship concerns. Messages from Spirit are consistent: focus on self-love and creating a life where body, mind, and spirit are aligned with your highest and best good; in so doing, your relationships will be harmonious. 

self-love transforms relationshipsAlthough I channel sage and loving advice from Spirit – for many years, I did not apply these valuable insights to my own life. I am sharing my personal story to underscore the validity of this important message: the power of self-love and taking care of one’s own spirit has an immediate effect on creating relationship harmony.

It is my hope that most of you readers have not experienced the level of dysfunction that you will read about here. But, no matter where you are on the spectrum of relationship health, I believe that one shift – giving attention to who you came here to be – will transform all of your relationships as well as the overall quality of your life.

I was that girl who always chose the wrong guy – literally. And, I don’t just mean wrong for me. During a break up with one of these guys, the man of my dreams walked up to me, or more like into me, looked into my eyes and said “I am your man.” It may sound corny, but for me, it was one of those surreal moments. A moment that could change a girls life for the better, if only she let it. He was a good friend, an amazing human being, he had beautiful and loving energy…and of course, I was already in love with him. Part of me wanted to walk down this road and took those first steps along that path. But, rather than continue forward, I clumsily stumbled back into the toxic relationship that I clearly had not yet left, hurting everyone in the process. For some reason (okay, fear and perhaps a bit of self-loathing), it was easier to stay than to leave, even though my sensitive spirit had long been tired of the negative energy that surrounded this particular union.

When this relationship ended, I was subject to abuses worse than what had transpired while in the relationship. After what was perhaps the most most painful and violating of his acts, he smugly pronounced, “I should go to prison for what I just did to you.” Indeed, he should have. I won’t recount the specifics of these actions, suffice it to say that several hours in, I completely dissociated from my body. The sexual harassment that followed, via any avenue possible, was exhausting. I did not report either the incident or the subsequent harassment. At the time, there were many justifications that I gave to myself for doing nothing, but when I look back…I see that I was terrified to do so, so I didn’t. In fact, I tried to pretend it didn’t happen but PTSD didn’t allow me such a luxury.

Like many people in toxic relationships, I was not my own friend. By always focusing on the chaos of the other person in the relationship and trying to get them “help”, rather than looking within and helping myself, I avoided the pain of seeing who I had become. I was not comfortable in my own skin. I subordinated my dreams for those of someone else. Even though that relationship finally ended, I remained in an energetic state of being that would continue to attract the same type of person.

I had neglected my dreams, needs, and passions for so long that I didn’t remember what they were. What I did know was that I was afraid to be alone. After Mr. Toxic, I entered into another relationship, and as you can expect of someone perpetually in relationship dysfunction, chose another hot mess of a man. I had known and loved him when I was younger but some 17 years later neither of us were those kids. Homeless. Alcoholic. Alcohol induced schizophrenic. Yet, oddly, he made me feel safe. Perhaps part of it was that I didn’t have to engage at the same level, therefore didn’t make myself as vulnerable. And, by this time I was an addict….or do they call it co-dependent? Whatever. I was energetically sick and shot myself up with my drug of choice: relationship chaos. Amidst one of my partners “absence due to alcohol” binges, I was asking spirit for guidance, trying to figure out how to let go of this guy. I really could think of no reason not to. It was time to let go and heal, yet I struggled with just doing it.

I asked my spirit guides why I was having such a hard time reconciling what I knew to be necessary with what I was doing. I asked them why I had this man in my life when I knew better than to be in yet another relationship with someone so screwed up. They lovingly reminded me that everything and everyone I bring into my life is a mirror. They had given me a lot of guidance before, but at that moment, I was actually ready and willing to hear it. This was the spark that stoked the fire that was my guiding light back to myself. My guides asked me to look at how this man was my mirror. Reflecting on this, I was like WTF? On the surface, we are so very different. But, diving deeper…I. Saw. Myself.

Like my partner, I treated myself like shit. Like him, I had created an image that wasn’t truly aligned with who I am. Like him, I kept people at a distance because I didn’t want to be vulnerable and I also did not want anyone to see what I thought was a broken and ugly me. Like him, I needed help with healing. I couldn’t go it alone, even with my amazing guides ever present. Before my “aha” moment of clarity while peering into this mirror, I did not allow myself to see the need for support, healing, advocacy, or self-love. With my newfound clarity, I found great motivation to shift my energy, to reclaim my spirit.

I decided that I needed to spend time with the version of me that I liked the most (other than the mama me, who was my saving grace through all kinds of hell). It was hard to remember this younger me who loved being alive but I was determined to find a grown-up version of her. I re-read my journals and poetry, read books by authors that had inspired me, began to write again, spent time in nature. I bonded with the most adorable cat in a dog body. I wandered around neighborhoods that I used to love. I renewed my love for the library. I put energy into building my business. I got myself into therapy. Heck, I even indulged in chick flicks and tear-jerkers which honestly helped me feel again. I began to align all aspects of myself with my life path and passion and recommitted to my life’s work. I also spent a lot of time in gratitude for all that was good in my life and in the world around me. As well, I spent time each day finding joy and appreciation for other people’s successes and happiness. I finally honored the life I came here to live by intentionally focusing on that which brought me joy, knowing that my thoughts and actions are what attract my opportunities and experiences.

The moment I shifted my relationship focus from the “other” to myself is the moment I shifted the energy of all of my relationships and the overall quality of my life. Once I looked in the mirror, and could honestly say that I loved myself, I realized that without focusing on them…my relationships were changing. They either fell out of my life or improved without me directing any energy to that improvement.

So, how did all this glorious self-love impact my relationship with my partner?

I finally realized that I owed him enough respect to believe that he had as much power to change his own life as I did mine. I also released that part of me that felt responsible for helping him heal. And, I made the decision to let him go. I did not focus on him. Did not allow myself to wallow in thoughts of worry for his well-being. I lovingly detached. What happened afterward was not what I had expected. My relationship did not end, though I did “let go.” It was not because I was afraid to leave, or because I relapsed into my pattern of dysfunction, but because he found his own strength. While I was busy focusing on finding myself, he improved his own life without me directing any energy toward him. So, as my guides said, “when you are in harmony with yourself, all of your other relationships will be in harmony, too. Some will fall away, and others shift to match your vibration.”

If you transform yourself, you transform all of your relationships. We truly do have the power to manifest that which we ask for. If we are willing to do the work. You don’t have to be as screwed up as I was to apply this mirror exercise or to shift your energy to a more positive vibration, and honestly, I hope you are not! But, you do have to be willing to look within. You have to give yourself the same attention and love you give to others, even if it feels awkward to do so. We all deserve to live joyfully, and we can!

P.S. For those of you who are in abusive relationships (or if you are like I was, in complete denial of being in an abusive relationship, but you are living in fear of how your partner will treat you or react to something)…please, seek support and advocacy. Your safety and well-being are important, as are your dreams and your joy. It is damn hard work to look within and find your strength, but please know that it is worth it.

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6 tips to prevent Spiritual Development Overload


Spiritual Development can be overwhelming. There is so much information accessible to us. Not only is technology right at our fingertips but spirit is knocking loudly on our doors. So, how do we integrate spiritual development into our day to day lives when we can’t retreat, attend empowerment conferences, read all of the books that we want, or see a spiritual counselor?

Many of us with a deep desire to grow spiritually begin a focused journey, and then we become overloaded and stop; we dive deep and then get distracted; we think we need mentors and teachers, guru’s and healers, but don’t know who to trust. And, when we are on this journey we wonder, “Do I have to be positive and loving all of the time?” With so many spiritual leaders saying that our thoughts manifest our reality (and they do), sometimes- in private teeny tiny moments – we might just miss our ignorance.  Just for a moment, of course! Or not. Perhaps we wish we were oblivious to our power to create our lives but we’re not –  darn it! –  our own personal judge believes that comes with a lot of responsibility and internal pressure.

The path to enlightenment is not a 12 week intensive. Well, maybe it is for some people…but, I’m guessing most folks can’t really drop everything to focus solely on spiritual development. If you can, do it! You’ll be glad you did. This post is for those of you who find yourselves stumbling along the path, questioning whether or not you should have gone left to learn about energy boundaries when instead you took a right into Reiki 1 attunement.

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Ease up on the accelerator and enjoy the journey!

Reflecting on my own development and themes common to many of my clients, I offer 6 p’s to help you ease up on that accelerator and allow yourself a joyful and continuous journey.

  1. Patience. Be patient with yourself – the pressure you feel to rapidly develop spiritual gifts and understanding is not pressure coming from your divine connection to the universe, to God, or even your higher self. It’s ego. Ego says “hurry up and be enlightened already.” Divine love says, “allow joy in being.” Some people come into their awareness through awakening, others through a process of discovery. It’s all good.
  2. Practicality. Take a practical approach – baby step will give you strong legs to stand on for a nice steady development pace whereas jumping straight into a backflip will feel good for a moment then leave you laying on the ground, dizzy, and confused.
  3. Pay Attention. Pay attention to symbolism and synchronicity. You’ve heard (or will hear) this time and time again in many spiritual works…because it is important and SIMPLE! If we just give a thought or two a day to note the synchronicity we see, we can learn so much. As well, pay attention to how who (or what) you engage with makes you feel. Everything from the food you partake of to the work environment you walk into every day has energy that truly impacts you – when you pay attention to your energetic response you are honoring your own body/mind/spirit alignment and as your ability to “tune in”  to  this energy becomes clearer, so too does your spiritual path.
  4. Play. Spiritual journeys are not all about intense study! There is much to be gained from play, including spiritual insights. I like the idea of playful meditation…roll down grassy hills like you did as a kid, turn the music up and dance yourself into a frenzy, sing at the top of your lungs, giggle and groove  your way to spiritual connection. It’s fun, it’s easy, it doesn’t cost a cent (unless, of course, you are one of those people who thinks being “playful” is gluing a penny to the ground and watching people try to pick it up). Play is a worthwhile investment on any spiritual journey.
  5. Pray. Talk to spirit in whatever way is most comfortable to you. Alone or in groups. With words or with art. Silent or with mantras, songs, or chants. Whatever resonates with you as comfortable and reminds you of your divine connection.
  6. Practice. Develop a spiritual practice that you can easily integrate into your life….and, uh…practice doing it. A few minutes each day of doing something that feels right for your spirit will take you further on your journey than feeling overwhelmed and falling into self-judgement about your progress. A “practice” can begin with a small affirmation of whatever seems most important for you and it can grow into whatever you want it to grow into – it’s something you build upon so that you have a strong foundation.

No external resource will inform your spiritual journey as profoundly as your own connection to the divine within you. When you feel comfortable with your ability to tune in to the energy around you and trust your inner knowing, you will know what external resources will be right for you. When you trust your path and your ability to connect with energy (developed through a solid foundation of spiritual practice), you’ll know how to ask for the resources that are right for your continued development and the universe will deliver.

Honoring the Divine in You….

P.S. Why six tips, and not 5 or 10 or some other common choice? I simply like the vibration of the number six for this post. 

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5 tips for parents of psychic kids

5 Tips Psychic Kids

5 tips psychic kidsA little about my psychic kids…in other words, why I think I am qualified to dole out tips on this topic.

[Click here to skip my rambling and go directly to the tips.]

I am blessed to be the mother of two psychic children. When my son was a baby, he looked and felt like a little prophet. He exuded a deep sense of beauty and tranquility. Strangers stopped us on the street to take a closer look at him – that is how lovely this energy emanating from and around him was. At age two, he fascinated me with his tale about his experience in the womb. Shortly thereafter he said, “God and I chose you to be my mom because you will help me do what I came here to do.” I was like, “uh…um…what are you supposed to do? Aren’t you just learning how to talk?” Honestly, this kid freaked me out. Not in a bad way, but in a “I sure hope I don’t screw this up” kind of way. During his early childhood, I often felt like he looked at our world as though a wise visitor who sometimes regretted the decision to come here – the physical limitations of being in a body, the disregard people show to our planet, the expectation that he should want to play with other children, all seemed to irritate him.

My son observed the world with a keen eye and intense introspection, offering up deep insights and prophetic words when you least expected it. His wisdom almost bordered on the eerie or otherworldly. Was he channeling at such a young age, or did he just remember who he was before he came here? I still don’t know. However, I am pretty sure that in those formative years of his life, he guided and taught me far more than I taught him.

One day, I heard this old man talking in my son’s bedroom. Confused – no old men in the house that I knew of – I peeked in and out of the mouth of my sound asleep kid, an old man voice  – deep and crackly – yelled at me and said “the boy needs glasses!” “Who are you? What are you doing in my son’s body? You need to leave it at once!” My son did, in fact, need glasses and I probably wouldn’t have known until later had this guide not used my son’s voice box to tell me.

My kiddo is a teenager now and continues to have that peaceful buddha energy. But, he’s also sort of grown into this life and no longer seems like a benevolent visitor. You know, spends too much time playing video games, chats with his friends when he should be sleeping, doesn’t want to sit with his mother in the movie theatre.  And yeah, it is possible he will tell me that I have scarred him for life by sharing so much about his baby buddha years on the interweb. Atleast, I am not using any current photo’s of him.

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The Princess & her Buddha Bro

With my daughter, her spirit started hanging around about two years before she was born. One day, I said, “Hey, little girl – if you want me  to be your vessel, you need to come now because I’m not going to have kids after buddha turns 5.”  She came along promptly and was born a couple months shy of my son’s 5th birthday.

This sweet being came into the world with an over the top “happy to be alive” exuberance. Unlike my son, she basked in having a body that could touch and explore the world around her. However, she was completely hypersensitive to everything – think Princess & The Pea times infinity. It seemed that the world she was so excited to be a part of also tortured her.

When she was just a few days old, this peaceful little girl version of the buddha cried out after I dressed her…like she was being emotionally harmed. She would not stop crying – an inconsolable, heart wrenching sound. My mind raced to figure it out…she had happily awoken, seemed peaceful during feeding and burping, and she had a clean diaper on so it was not any of those “go to” areas. I looked into her eyes praying for an answer and I felt her in my head, asking me what she had done that I would clothe her in such a terrible fabric that scratched her skin. I muttered, “I’m so sorry, it was a gift!” and quickly took the gown off, dressed her in a soft organic cotton gown and the tears stopped, the breathing slowed, she looked at me like I was an angel because I understood her and that sweet face just melted my heart (before the panic set in about a lifetime of expensive clothing).

I seriously struggled as I tried to figure out how to help her navigate this world, which she experienced more and more harshly once she became a toddler. I was so afraid for her that the fear prevented me from hearing my guidance. I had long ago shielded myself from seeing lower energies, so it didn’t even occur to me that she might be seeing them. She had night terrors almost every night, an obsessive need to touch everything before she’d leave a room or a park or anywhere, and she could not go into a store or any other public place without having a tantrum. I can’t count the number of times I was given the evil eye by passersby presuming me to be the worst mother in the world -this adorable girl screaming her little head off like she was being tortured.

When she was 4, she had a complete meltdown in a department store. She ran under a clothing rack to cry. I tried to calm her, but she was still hysterical and having a hard time breathing as we walked out of the store. She held my hand and tearfully told me that she just couldn’t help having the tantrums; she didn’t know why she did it, was tired of having them and really, really tried to control it. I felt her anguish in every cell of my body. It was a moment to break a mother’s heart, but it was also the moment of clarity for me. The moment that I realized my little girl needed the same tools that I need to function in this world. She was more like me than like her brother.

5 tips psychic kidsLike me, my princess needed to learn about her energetic boundaries.

The day that I taught her a grounding exercise is the day that changed everything. No more tantrums, no more night terrors, and no more feeling like the wrong fabric will scar her.

Now, my psychic princess can enjoy life amidst crowds of any size.

With the hopes that all psychic children can joyfully navigate this life and fulfill their purpose, I give you the following tips…all simple and easy to integrate into day to day life:

#1.  Help your psychic child by engaging in conversation that directs them to look within for where they end and another begins.

Sensitive children need to learn how to discern what is their own feeling and what is energy coming from someone/something else.

For example, if your psychic child says they have a headache right after Fred enters the room with a headache, ask if they think it is their headache or if they might be feeling Fred’s headache. This brings them to look within. If they are feeling Fred’s headache, they will tell you and their headache will dissipate. This type of inquiry helps psychic kids begin to realize that there is a distinction.

You can use this method for any feeling – a simple line of inquiry that helps them look within for the source of the emotion, pain, or whatever it is. This only requires your attention to the environment and talking to your child about what they are feeling or experiencing.

#2. Psychic kids benefit immensely from learning simple grounding techniques.

There are a lot of techniques out there – color, movement, visualization – choose what will work for your child based on what seems most natural to them. When are they most happy? My daughter loves all that is of the earth so this is what came up for us. Alter it to whatever feels right for your kid.

“I see that you are worried. How about I teach you a little exercise to help you?  You can do it any time all by yourself. Let’s imagine we are trees. Stand up, take a deep breath. Do you feel your breath? Let’s breath again! Put your arms out like they are branches. Feel your feet touching the earth. Do you feel that? Imagine roots going down into the ground. Feel your arms, wave them around if you want to, reach toward the sky, take another deep breath. Say, ‘I am [your kids name] and I am one with the earth and one with the divine. I am [whatever it is they need to affirm – for my daughter on that  day, it was ‘ focused’] and I am happy to be alive!'”

That’s it. Simple. Easy to remember, for you and for the child. Honestly, this changed my daughter’s life. Of course, she wanted something to help her so it is likely that any technique would have made a difference. Experiment. You don’t need a book or a class or heck, even this article – you simply need to know that grounding helps psychic kids feel connected to this world without losing their connection to the divine. Then, you need to listen to your inner knowing for what will work for your child.

#3. Address disturbances that your child experiences because of their sensitive nature.

Psychic children often complain about a ringing in their ear, or of “something” keeping them up at night. Don’t ignore it.

First, look at potential physical causes.

If you rule out medical issues, look to the physical space. Electrical lines overhead? Bedroom next to a bathroom? Computers or other electronics near the child’s bed (or on other side of wall). If any of these factors are present and unchangeable, look to Feng-Shui to help alleviate the specific issue.

If you have ruled out any actual physical cause for the ringing or other chatter, it is likely that the angelic or spirit realm is communicating with your child.

You and your child simply need to ask the angels and guides to turn down the volume on the ringing or chatter and to communicate at a different time. The angels and spirit guides are always loving, supportive, and respectful. “Angels, I know you are here for my highest and best good but the ringing is hurting my ears and keeping me awake. Please turn the volume down.” You can also ask them to communicate in a different way, such as dreams.

#4. Actively listen to your child and be open to surprises.

Psychic kids may tell you things that amaze you, creep you out, wonder what planet they came from, leave you feeling you need to intervene in a matter, or tell you early on what their mission in life is (keep a journal of these things).

They may tell you that the house you just drove by is a ghost house, the name of the spirit(s) in your house, who they were in a past life, or that they don’t like a particular person for a specific reason that the child has never been exposed to. If the person is someone they think they are supposed to like, young children may tell you that the dog or cat doesn’t like the person.

Your responses to these out of the blue topics can be the difference between a well-adjusted and confident psychic teen who sees psychic ability as an aspect of who they are (and perhaps even an important part of their life mission), and a psychic teen who struggles, feels like they have been abandoned in some strange world that they can’t navigate, and turns to destructive behavior to shut down the “curse” of being psychic.

If you feel yourself having a negative reaction to something they share or don’t know how to respond, consider saving further discussion for a later conversation… after they have had an opportunity to share openly and feel supported and to give you time to process and determine how best to address it.

Having adults around who are open and accessible helps them feel more sure footed, safe, and secure. Also, talk to them often about things they have told you so they maintain a close connection to who they came here to be.

#5. Foster psychic ability as you would any other aspect of their being – not a terrible curse, something weird, or a miraculous ultra-special gift.

Psychic children, like every other human, need to feel valued for all aspects of who they are, so that they can grow up feeling healthy, happy, and whole.


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I am psychic, now what?

I think I am Psychic

Lately, I have received a number of calls from people coming into their “gift” (or “curse” – depending on how scary it is for them!).

“Uh, um…I think I am psychic.”

“All of the sudden, I started having visions.”

“I see orbs of light, when I never did before.”

“I am hearing voices, how do I know if these are good spirits or bad ones?”‘

“What do I do with this? Can I turn it off? Better yet, can you turn it off for me?”

Awakening to psychic gifts can be frightening, exciting, peaceful, stressful – similar to any new experience that causes you to stretch beyond your comfort zone.

Psychic ability lives within each of us, and for many it remains as a nice, safe socially accepted feeling we call “intuition,” others intentionally develop the ability to access spirit and energy. Some have known about their gifts since childhood and have grown with and into them; and, still others are born into it later in life – often termed “awakened.”

Our world is shifting, more and more people are being called into their roles as energy workers, light workers, intuitives, psychics…whatever term you feel comfortable with. No matter how you arrived into this place of realizing you are psychic and wondering what to do with it, treat yourself and your gift with respect and be patient as you learn how it will play out in your life.

Take responsibility for becoming educated and connecting with others who share similar experiences. Also, I recommend that you look at the process of coming into your psychic gifts as you would any other significant aspect of your life. You would not think to yourself, “I just realized that I am being called to be a Doctor, so I think I will start practicing medicine;” instead you would research, study, figure out if you will be a specialist or generalist, etc. Neither should you come into your psychic ability and immediately feel compelled to begin a practice or give advice. Give yourself time to develop and hone your skills. Enjoy the journey of opening up and allowing yourself to receive and use your gifts. Also, remember that not all psychics are intended to practice professionally. Psychics are needed in every field, family, and community- both professionally and socially. As you learn about your psychic strengths, connect with spirit, and gain confidence – you will readily see the role this is to play in your life.

Each person will have different needs and strengths, as well as their own unique way of tending to their path. The most common issue I come across in my work with burgeoning psychics is one of trust. “How do I know that I am connecting with spirit, or if it is just in my head, my own thoughts?” The way to trust is different for each person – some need practice, others confidence; some need to have physical or visual affirmations. Still others have upbringings that cause them to question whether or not it is even acceptable for them to acknowledge these abilities and they may need to seek spiritual support from within their religious community. In many cases, second guessing or being fearful of your psychic experience is often due to external judgement, fear of external judgement, skepticism, or teachings that have told you that it is wrong to believe that people can communicate directly with spirit. Finding a community of psychics, healers, or friends who share similar experiences, or even friends who are just open and loving to confide in can provide much needed support as you move forward.

“How do I know that the spirit I am communicating with is a good spirit?” Importantly, information from angels and spirit guides is always loving and supportive. It is a good practice to define your boundaries with the spirit realm, setting your intention each time you connect and as a daily affirmation. It can also be very helpful to have a place that you visualize when you begin to feel lower energies around or even when you are second guessing yourself. When I was a young girl, there was a time when I was beginning to see lower energies surrounding me. I became frightened until I heard a voice that told me to breathe. As I took that breath, I felt myself being lifted up toward a beautiful and soothing light. I found myself being welcomed into a loving circle of angels, who took my hands as I joined their circle. They told me that love would always protect me and would always conquer fear. This is the place that I go to if I ever feel afraid, whether psychically or physically! Find yours, it doesn’t have to be something from your past – it can be a beautiful, safe place that you create.

Affirmations, visualizations, setting boundaries – these are all incredibly beneficial. Even for those who are not focusing on developing their psychic gifts. For psychics who receive more than they are ready to, I highly recommend learning about your energy field and how to set energetic boundaries. For those who are reading this because you want to “turn it off,” please remember that we do all have free will so what you do with your gift is up to you! Know that you can set boundaries to access your abilities in a way that feels safe and healthy to you. The critical piece here is “you,” you must be willing to get in touch with your own knowing, whether you want to dial it down or ramp it up.

There are excellent resources on the interweb and at many libraries that can help those of you who are in a development stage better understand what you experiencing. There are meet-up groups, forums, and individuals right in your own community who can support you. As well, there are many classes offered. Finding a mentor or a small support community can be extremely beneficial. In fact, in can change your life.

Enjoy the journey!

As a side note, because I think it is the responsible thing to share…

I have come in contact with individuals who are unsure if what they are experiencing is indeed a psychic gift or if they have a mental health issue. If at any time you feel your health is at risk or you feel this is a concern, it is important to seek appropriate care from a medical or mental health provider immediately.